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Thich Nhat Hanh

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You Cannot Help But Love

Topic: Love, Compassion, & Kindness

When you understand, you cannot help but love… To develop understanding, you have to practice looking at all living beings with the eyes of compassion. When you understand, you love. And when you love, you naturally act in a way that can relieve the suffering of people.

Thich Nhat Hanh

Early Life and Education: Thich Nhat Hanh was born on October 11, 1926, in Thừa Thiên-Huế Province, Vietnam. At the age of 16, he entered the monastery at nearby Từ Hiếu Temple, where he was ordained as a monk. He then went on to study both Vietnamese traditions of Buddhism and Western philosophy at the Báo Quốc Buddhist Academy and the University of Saigon. His synthesis of Eastern and Western thought led him to develop a unique approach to mindfulness and Zen practice, which he shared with people from different walks of life.

Activism and Teachings: During the Vietnam War, Thich Nhat Hanh was a strong advocate for peace and reconciliation. He founded the School of Youth for Social Service, training young activists in Buddhist principles and nonviolent resistance. His efforts to end the violence and his calls for peace drew international attention. Martin Luther King Jr. nominated him for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1967. Thich Nhat Hanh authored numerous books, teaching mindfulness and compassion, and founded the Plum Village Tradition, a network of monasteries and practice centers around the world.

Later Life and Legacy: In his later years, Thich Nhat Hanh continued to travel, write, and teach, spreading the message of mindfulness and love. He suffered a severe stroke in 2014 that limited his ability to communicate but remained an inspiring figure. After spending some years in France at Plum Village, he returned to Vietnam in 2018 to spend his remaining years at his root temple, Từ Hiếu. Thich Nhat Hanh passed away on January 22, 2022, leaving behind a legacy of profound teachings that continue to inspire individuals and communities across the globe to live with understanding, compassion, and interconnectedness. His life's work serves as a beacon for those seeking a path of peace and love in the world.

(1926-2022) Buddhism
Being Peace

Hạnh Thich Nhất. Being Peace. Edited by Rachel Neumann, Parallax Press, 1987 [Thich Nhất Hạnh, Being Peace] pp. 18, 21-24.

Thich Nhat Hanh


Theme: Love

About This Thich Nhat Hanh Quote [Commentary]

“When you understand, you cannot help but love,” Thich Nhat Hanh writes, offering a direct connection between insight and love. His wording is precise: understanding does not lead to love as a possibility—it results in love as a natural outcome. He adds, “To develop understanding, you have to practice looking at all living beings with the eyes of compassion.” This is not a passive recognition but an active seeing, shaped by attention and care. By looking in this way, something in us shifts. Understanding takes root, and love emerges—not as an ideal, but as the fruit of awareness.

“When you understand, you love,” he continues, repeating the point to make its simplicity clear. Love is not separate from understanding—it is its expression. Thich Nhat Hanh then brings the insight into action: “And when you love, you naturally act in a way that can relieve the suffering of people.” These three movements—understanding, loving, and relieving suffering—are not fragmented steps but part of one unfolding. Love, in this view, is not abstract or private. It is visible in what we do, and how we move through the world.

Each phrase builds upon the last, forming a complete path. “When you understand, you cannot help but love… you love… you naturally act.” The language carries no demand, only clarity. Love is not forced or manufactured; it is what remains when we see others with compassion. To follow this path is to trust that understanding will open the way. And when it does, love does not need to be added—it is already there, present in the wish to ease the suffering of others.

A Thich Nhat Hahn Quote About Forgiveness

“Forgiveness will not be possible until compassion is born in your heart.”

—Thich Nhat Hanh, The Power of Forgiveness.

Richard Rohr, Look with the Eyes of Compassion 

The Buddhist monk Thich Nhat Hanh (born 1926) is one of the world’s most influential spiritual teachers. During the Vietnam War, his work for peace brought him into friendship with Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr., Thomas Merton, and other Christians who shared his belief that peace must be who we are, not just something we demand. Thich Nhat Hanh teaches:

“This capacity of waking up, of being aware of what is going on in your feelings, in your body, in your perceptions, in the world, is called Buddha-nature, the capacity of understanding and loving… It is with our capacity of smiling, breathing, and being peace that we can make peace.

Many of us worry about the world situation. We don’t know when the bombs will explode. We feel that we are on the edge of time. As individuals, we feel helpless, despairing. The situation is so dangerous, injustice is so widespread, the danger is so close. In this kind of situation, if we panic, things will only become worse. We need to remain calm, to see clearly. Meditation is to be aware, and to try to help.

I like to use the example of a small boat crossing the Gulf of Siam. In Vietnam, there are many people, called boat people, who leave the country in small boats. Often the boats are caught in rough seas or storms, the people may panic, and boats can sink. But if even one person aboard can remain calm, lucid, knowing what to do and what not to do, he or she can help the boat survive. His or her expression—face, voice—communicates clarity and calmness, and people have trust in that person. They will listen to what he or she says. One such person can save the lives of many.

Our world is something like a small boat. Compared with the cosmos, our planet is a very small boat. We are about to panic because our situation is no better than the situation of the small boat in the sea. . . . Humankind has become a very dangerous species. We need people who can sit still and be able to smile, who can walk peacefully. We need people like that in order to save us. Mahayana Buddhism says that you are that person. . . .

The root-word ‘budh’ means to wake up, to know, to understand. A person who wakes up and understands is called a Buddha. It is as simple as that. The capacity to wake up, to understand, and to love is called Buddha-nature. [Christians would call this Christ nature, the Christ self, or the mind of Christ.]…

When you understand, you cannot help but love… To develop understanding, you have to practice looking at all living beings with the eyes of compassion. When you understand, you love. And when you love, you naturally act in a way that can relieve the suffering of people.” —Thich Nhất Hạnh, Being Peace. Pp. 18, 21-24.

—Richard Rohr [Daily Meditation From the Center for Action and Contemplation, Week 30, Being Peaceful Change (Wednesday,  July 29, 2020)].

Resources

  • The Center for Action and Contemplation, Website
  • Richard Rohr's Daily Meditation From the Center for Action and Contemplation (Week Thirty) Being Peaceful Change
  • What is Contemplative Prayer and Why is it so Needed? with Fr. Richard Rohr 154,502 views•Jan 10, 2018
  • Look with the Eyes of Compassion Wednesday, July 29, 2020, CAC.org

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