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“Curb your anger; restrain your wrath…” The way to do this is to oppose the self and, when it wants to complain about something, give thanks instead.

Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi

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Curb Your Anger with Gratitude

Topic: Gratitude

Jesus was asked, “O Spirit of God, what is the most tremendous and most difficult thing in this world and the next?”
“The wrath of God,” he answered.
“What can save us from it?” they asked.
“Curb your anger; restrain your wrath,” he replied.
The way to do this is to oppose the self and, when it wants to complain about something, give thanks instead. Exaggerate it so much that love is generated within you, for to give false thanks is to seek love from God.
So says our great master [Muhammad]: to complain of a creature is to complain of the Creator. He has also said that enmity and anger are hidden within you, from you, like fire. When you see a spark leap out of this fire, put it out right away, so that it may return to non-existence from whence it came. If you help it along with the match of a word of recrimination or retort, it will find a way to come again out of non-existence and only with difficulty will you be able to send it back.
Repel your enemy with something better, so that you may vanquish him: your enemy is not flesh and bone, it is his evil thought. When that is repelled from you by means of abundance of gratitude, it will be repelled from him also. This occurs naturally; as the saying goes, “The human being is a slave to beneficence.”

Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi

Jalal ad-Din Muhammad Rumi, born on September 30, 1207, and also known as Jalaluddin Mevlana (Mawlānā) Rumi, J. M. Rumi, or simply as Rumi in the Western world, was an extraordinary poet, philosopher, and Sufi mystic. He was a prominent figure in the Islamic world, born in the region of present-day Afghanistan, then within the greater Persian Empire, and later settled in Konya, present-day Turkey. Rumi's passionate love for humanity and his deep spiritual insights transcended geographical, linguistic, and cultural barriers, making his poetry and teachings resonate not only within the Islamic world but also with audiences globally.

Rumi's spiritual journey led him to develop a unique approach to Sufism that emphasized love, tolerance, and the pursuit of enlightenment. He created a fusion of traditional Islamic beliefs with mysticism, nurturing a school of thought that flourished in his followers. They established a sect known to the Western world as the 'Whirling Dervishes', a term derived from their mesmerizing practice of whirling as a form of physical meditation. The proper name for this branch is the Mevlevi order, dedicated to preserving and promoting Rumi's teachings.

In addition to being a mystic, Rumi was an accomplished scholar and theologian who left behind an impressive literary legacy. His best-known work, the Mathnawi or Masnavi, is a six-volume poetic epic that explores themes of love, divine mystery, and human connection to the spiritual world. Rumi's poetic style is marked by profound emotion and philosophical depth, weaving metaphors and allegory to create timeless pieces that continue to inspire readers today. Rumi's influence reaches far beyond his time, as his teachings on love, compassion, and unity continue to touch the hearts of millions, transcending barriers of religion, culture, and era.

(1207-1273) Islam
Fihi ma Fihi

Rumi, Jalaluddin Mevlana. The Rumi Daybook. Translated by Kabir Helminski and Camille Helminski, Shambhala Publications, Inc., 2012, p. 321 [Rumi: Fihi ma Fihi: Discourse 68].

Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi


Theme: Gratefulness

About This J. M. Rumi Quotation [Commentary]

In this quote, Rumi instructs us on the transformative power of gratitude. He suggests that by actively choosing to give thanks, especially in moments where our natural inclination may be to express anger or dissatisfaction, we align ourselves more closely with divine love. The act of giving thanks, even when it feels insincere, opens up a pathway for love to flow into our lives. Rumi contends that such an approach not only curbs our own negative emotions but also invites a deeper connection with God. It’s a simple yet profound practice that engages the heart and refines the soul.

Additional Jalaluddin Mevlana Rumi Quote: A Real Gem

Until the Gem surrendered itself,
when did it ever become a jewel set into a ring?

To keep being stony
and to say “I” is crazy ―
it’s time for you to die to self; let go.

Pride always grasps after power and riches
because the bath-furnace burns perfectly with dung.

These two nurses just plump up the skin―
they stuff it with fat and flesh and arrogance and pride.

They focus on the shell, thinking it’s the kernel;
they don’t raise their eyes to the kernel of the kernel.

―J. M. Rumi, Mathnawi V:1945-1949 [The Rumi Daybook, translated by Kabir and Camille Helminski] p. 312.

A brief commentary: 

In his poem “A Real Gem,” Rumi says:

“To keep being stony and to say ‘I’ is crazy—it’s time for you to die to self; let go.”

I am thinking, “I may be able to become less stony and self-referential, but how on earth am I going to die to self and let go?” After communing about it, this is what I got: Practice being wholehearted and single-minded.

What happens when you wholeheartedly and single-mindedly invest yourself in an activity that you love? You enter into a state of flow, right? You “let go and let God.” You are now in Self—a state that Abraham Maslow called “self-transcendence.” In this sense, you have died to your old self.

Your new challenge is to make being in Self a spiritual practice that eventually turns this occasional state into a sustained trait. Rumi says, “When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy” (Rumi, “From Your Soul”). So this “dying to self and letting go”—that your fretful ego fears—turns out to be “a joy” after all.