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The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

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Unconditional Love

Topic: Love, Compassion, & Kindness

The ultimate lesson all of us have to learn is unconditional love, which includes not only others but ourselves as well.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross was born in Switzerland on July 8, 1926, and her life journey took her from the heart of Europe to the intricate corridors of the human psyche. A groundbreaking psychiatrist, she is best known for her pioneering work in Near-death studies and her seminal book "On Death and Dying," published in 1969. In this work, she courageously broached the subject of mortality, delineating what would later be known as the Kübler-Ross model or the Five Stages of Grief. These stages—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—were initially described as phases individuals go through when grappling with their own impending death. Over time, however, these stages have also been recognized as universally relevant to anyone dealing with loss or grief, expanding our understanding of the shared human experience of love and suffering.

More than an academic, Kübler-Ross was a tireless educator and humanitarian. She received twenty honorary degrees and estimated that she had educated around 125,000 students through her courses on death and dying across various institutions. Notably, she was also a 2007 inductee into the National Women's Hall of Fame. Her voice reached far beyond the medical and psychiatric communities; in 1970, she delivered the prestigious Ingersoll Lectures on Human Immortality at Harvard University, casting a spotlight on the theme of On Death and Dying. The breadth of her influence attests to the universality of her message, one that transcends academic disciplines and speaks to the heart of our collective human journey.

While she was often dubbed the "death and dying lady," she considered herself more aptly as the "life and living lady." The Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Foundation, inspired by her life's work, continues her mission. The foundation serves as a vivid reminder that her teachings were not solely about the end of life but about embracing the totality of existence—both its trials and its joys. It is this enduring focus on love, acceptance, and the interconnectedness of all life's experiences that makes her legacy a living testament to the transformative power of compassion.

(1926-2004) Humanism, Arts and Sciences

Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. "Death: The Final Stage of Growth," p. 76

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross


Theme: Love

About This Elisabeth Kübler-Ross Quote [Brief Commentary]

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross touches on something both simple and monumental: unconditional love is the root of our existence and the essence of our spiritual growth. It’s easy to direct our love outward, to see the divine spark in someone else. Yet, how often do we forget that this same spark exists within us? Loving ourselves unconditionally is not an act of arrogance, but an acknowledgment of our own worthiness. It’s a recognition that the self is not an isolated entity but an integral part of the greater whole. By embracing ourselves in our fullness—flaws and all—we prepare the soil from which love for others can genuinely sprout.

Elisabeth Kübler-Ross’s words also bring to light the paradox that suffering, though painful, can act as a sort of crucible for this kind of love. Those who have walked through the valleys of life, who have sat with despair and faced down defeat, often arrive at a broader expanse of compassion. They learn to see not just the light but the source of that light in themselves and others. It’s like we go through a spiritual alchemy; the struggles become the very thing that deepens our ability to love. This is not to romanticize pain but to recognize its transformative power.

So, when Kübler-Ross speaks of unconditional love as the “ultimate lesson,” she reminds us of a truth we inherently know but frequently forget: Love isn’t a finite resource we need to ration but an abundant wellspring, fed from our own depths. It begins with a single, inward ripple of compassion, broadening ever outward until it encompasses not just ourselves but the world. Love and suffering, self and others—these are not separate chapters in our life story but interconnected elements of a single, ongoing narrative of growth.

The Ultimate Lesson—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross [Excerpted Commentary]

The sole purpose of life is to grow. The ultimate lesson is learning how to love and be loved unconditionally… I truly believe that my truth is a universal one—above all religions, economics, race and color—shared by the common experience of life. All people come from the same source and return to the same source. We must all learn to love and be loved unconditionally… [See Resources for the link to this Awakin.org article.]

Additional Kübler-Ross Quotes

“The most beautiful people we have known are those who have known defeat, known suffering, known struggle… and have found their way out of the depths.”

—Elisabeth Kübler-Ross, Death: The Final Stage of Growth, p. 76.

“When we have passed the tests we are sent to Earth to learn, we are allowed to graduate. We are allowed to shed our body, which imprisons our souls.”

―Dr. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross,The Wheel of Life (1997).