To be grateful is to recognize the love of God in everything He has given us—and He has given us everything.

Thomas Merton

To Be Grateful

Topic: Gratitude

To be grateful is to recognize the love of God in everything He has given us—and He has given us everything. Every breath we draw is a gift of His love, every moment of existence is grace, for it brings with us immense graces from Him. Gratitude therefore takes nothing for granted, is never unresponsive, is constantly awakening to new wonder, and to praise of the goodness of God. For the grateful person knows that God is good, not by hearsay but by experience. And that is what makes all the difference.

Thomas Merton

Thomas Merton (born January 31, 1915, in Prades, France – died December 10, 1968, in Bangkok, Thailand) was a Trappist monk, writer, poet, and spiritual thinker whose life bridged the worlds of contemplation and social engagement. The son of artists—an American mother and a New Zealand father—Merton spent his early years in France, England, and the United States. After losing both parents at a young age, he pursued studies at Cambridge and later at Columbia University, where he earned a master’s degree in English literature. Though immersed in the intellectual and cultural life of New York, Merton experienced a profound spiritual awakening that led to his conversion to Catholicism in 1938.

In 1941, seeking solitude and union with God, Merton entered the Abbey of Gethsemani in Kentucky. Within the cloister, he discovered not an escape from the world but a deeper way of engaging it. His autobiography, The Seven Storey Mountain (1948), recounting his restless youth and the path to his monastic vocation, became an unexpected bestseller, resonating with postwar readers searching for direction and meaning. Over the following decades, Merton wrote prolifically—journals, essays, poetry, and spiritual reflections—exploring prayer, contemplation, identity, and the presence of God in the midst of ordinary life. Works such as New Seeds of Contemplation and No Man Is an Island express his conviction that true contemplation is rooted in love, attention, and the recognition of divine presence in all creation.

In his later years, Merton emerged as a powerful voice for interfaith dialogue, peace, and social justice. He corresponded with spiritual figures such as the Dalai Lama, Thich Nhat Hanh, and D.T. Suzuki, discovering resonances between Christian mysticism and Eastern contemplative traditions. His writings on nonviolence, racial justice, and nuclear disarmament reflected a spirituality that united inner transformation with moral responsibility. Merton’s untimely death during an interreligious conference in Thailand marked the end of a life devoted to bridging contemplation and compassion. His legacy endures as an invitation to seek God in silence, to live truthfully, and to recognize the deep unity that underlies the world’s divisions.

(1915-1968) Christianity
Thoughts in Solitude

Merton, Thomas. Thoughts in Solitude. Farrar, Straus, Giroux, 1998, p. 33 [Thoughts in Solitude by Thomas Merton (1956)].

Thomas Merton

Theme: Gratefulness

About This Thomas Merton Quote

Thomas Merton begins with a plain definition: “To be grateful is to recognize the love of God in everything He has given us—and He has given us everything.” Gratitude starts as recognition—seeing “the love of God” in what is already given, and letting “He has given us everything” set the scale. The point is not a rare feeling, but an honest seeing of gift.

He then brings that recognition down to what is most constant: “Every breath we draw is a gift of His love, every moment of existence is grace.” If breath is “a gift” and each moment “grace,” then gratitude “takes nothing for granted” and is “never unresponsive.” It stays “constantly awakening to new wonder,” and it turns naturally “to praise of the goodness of God.”

Thomas Merton closes by naming the difference this makes: “For the grateful person knows that God is good, not by hearsay but by experience. And that is what makes all the difference.” Gratitude becomes a way of knowing—moving from “hearsay” to “experience.” In that lived knowledge, we keep returning to what he has already said: “every breath,” “every moment,” and “everything” given in love.

Parker J. Palmer

When my courage to work at the margins wavers, I take heart in what Merton said in his final talk, given to a conference of monks in Bangkok a few hours before he died. Quoting a Tibetan lama who was forced to flee his monastery and his homeland, Merton advised the monks, “From now on, Brother, everybody stands on his own feet.” In words that ring true for me at a time in history when our major social institutions—religious, economic, and political institutions—are profoundly dysfunctional, Merton goes on to say:

“…we can no longer rely on being supported by structures that may be destroyed at any moment by a political power or a political force. You cannot rely on structures. They are good and they should help us, and we should do the best we can with them. But they may be taken away, and if everything is taken away, what do you do next?”

—Parker J. Palmer [A Friendship, A Love, A Rescue, On Being column].

Things do not always work out so well, of course. History is full of tragically failed visions of possibility, and the more profound the vision, the more likely we are to fall short of achieving it. But even here, Merton has a word of hope for us, a paradoxical word, of course:

“…do not depend on the hope of results… you may have to face the fact that your work will be apparently worthless and even achieve no result at all, if not perhaps results opposite to what you expect. As you get used to this idea, you start more and more to concentrate not on the results, but on the value, the rightness, the truth of the work itself.”

As long as we are wedded to “effectiveness” we will take on smaller and smaller tasks, for they are the only ones with which we can get results. If we want to witness to important but impossible values like love, truth and justice, there must be a standard that trumps effectiveness. The name of that standard is “faithfulness.” At the end of the road, I will not be asking about outcomes. I’ll be asking if I was faithful to my gifts, to the needs I saw around me, to the ways in which my gifts might meet those needs, to “the truth of the work itself.”

For helping me understand this—and for imbuing me with the faith that, despite my many flaws, I might be able to live this way—I owe a debt of deep gratitude to Thomas Merton, friend, fellow traveler, and messenger of hope.

—Parker J. Palmer [A Friendship, A Love, A Rescue, On Being column].

Additional Thomas Merton Quotes

“This new language of prayer has to come out of something which transcends all our traditions, and comes out of the immediacy of love. We have to part now, aware of the love that unites us, the love that unites us in spite of real differences, real emotional friction… The things on the surface are nothing, what is deep is the Real. We are creatures of Love. Let us therefore join hands, as we did before, and I will try to say something that comes out of the depths of our hearts. I ask you to concentrate on the love that is in you, that is in us all. I have no idea what I am going to say. I am going to be silent a minute, and then I will say something…
O God, we are one with You. You have made us one with You. You have taught us that if we are open to one another, You dwell in us. Help us to preserve this openness and to fight for it with all our hearts. Help us to realize that there can be no understanding where there is mutual rejection. O God, in accepting one another wholeheartedly, fully, completely, we accept You, and we thank You, and we adore You, and we love You with our whole being, because our being is Your being, our spirit is rooted in Your spirit. Fill us then with love, and let us be bound together with love as we go our diverse ways, united in this one spirit which makes You present in the world, and which makes You witness to the ultimate reality that is love. Love has overcome. Love is victorious. Amen.”

—Thomas Merton [Closing statements and prayer from an informal address delivered in Calcutta, India (October 1968), from The Asian Journal of Thomas Merton (1975).

“…I stand among you as one who offers a small message of hope, that first, there are always people who dare to seek on the margin of society, who are not dependent on social acceptance, not dependent on social routine, and prefer a kind of free-floating existence under a state of risk. And among these people, if they are faithful to their own calling, to their own vocation, and to their own message from God, communication on the deepest level is possible. And the deepest level of communication is not communication, but communion. It is wordless. It is beyond words, and it is beyond speech and beyond concept.”

—Thomas Merton [The Asian Journal of Thomas Merton. New Directions, 1975].

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